Dating or being married to a boy trapped inside a
man's body can give you a whole range of emotions. He may make you want
to pull out all of your hair and scream sometimes.
This type of man will anger you more then any other man has ever angered you before.
This
will be a little scary since you never knew you were capable of having
these deep rooted feeling inside especially for someone you love so
much. This is when resentment will start to build. You're way too good
for that sweetheart! Your time is precious and so are you. Don't let him
make you feel any less just because he hasn't or isn't capable of being
mentally grown.
Some how in some way it will always get turned around on you when you get into a fight or argument with him.
Fights
are usually started because you've come to him or opened up about your
thoughts or feelings. You're not happy with the way things are going or
you don't feel satisfied. You should always be free to speak your
feelings! You deserve to be happy! A grown man who loves you will do
anything in his power to make sure he listens and makes sure you are
happy! Don't you ever forget that! (Easier said then done at times
though' huh?)
Unfortunately,
this type of man will not only get defensive, he will always have
something to say along these common lines when you try to talk to him.
"Stop attacking me".
"I can't do anything right".
"Why can't you just be happy"?
" I have feeling's too"!
"I guess I'm not aloud to talk about My feelings".
"You probably deserve better"!
He
usually plays the "Victim" card or play's it down. Why? Because he
can't be wrong and this defines a boy stuck in a Man's Body. He can't
see it but anyone and everyone else grown can. This person doesn't want
to grow up or just can't.
Typically when he reacts this way over a small grown up talk, you end up confused and asking yourself, "How did something so small and simple turn into something so big and confusing"?
Easy answer... This is how he manipulates you. It's a type of reverse psychology commonly known as 'Smoke Screening'.
He can also be a projector. Projecting is when someone starts making
their problems your problems. This is a way he spins the whole thing
into constant circles. Before you know it your head is spinning and you
are now so confused. You have just forgotten what is really going on. (Guess What? That is his exact plan and he knows just what he's doing).
You have to be smarter, stop him as soon as you get to this point, let
it be known you are onto him, and you must start back to the original
problem.
The key is not forgetting why you came to him in the first place. Stick to what the subject is really about.
You have got to find a way to focus on that while tuning out all other nonsense that's coming out of his mouth. Trust me, if you don't, you will not only get hurt but you will get lost in his game of merry go round as well. His goal is to get the attention off himself and onto you.
You have got to find a way to focus on that while tuning out all other nonsense that's coming out of his mouth. Trust me, if you don't, you will not only get hurt but you will get lost in his game of merry go round as well. His goal is to get the attention off himself and onto you.
"Immature men cannot accept blame".
This spinning around cycle can go on for days, weeks, and even months if you allow it to, because again
"Immature men cannot accept blame".
Do not step down to his level. Do stay focused.
Don't
be pulled into his trap by letting him get you so upset that you're
calling him names. This is exactly what he wants you to do. Why? Because
if you do, then he wins.
By
calling him these specific names, it will only provoke this "Man-Child"
more. You do not want to go down this road. It is dangerous.
Reframe from using names such as these:
Immature, Child, Childish, or Baby and definitely stop yourself from saying "Grow Up!"
It will set him on fire because he knows you are right.
Remember, he can't be wrong regardless of how it makes you feel because
he's designed like a child. It's his happiness that counts, not yours.
If you love this man and want him to hear you, follow my advise by staying focused and not letting him get you upset. Stay centered and don't forget the real reason why you are coming to him.
If this doesn't help and you come to a point where you just can't take
it anymore then I suggest counselling or just moving on.
If
at anytime things escalate to a point where he gets abusive, get help
immediately! Signs of abuse come in many forms and if at anytime this
happens, it does not matter if he's a boy living in a man's body. Abuse
is abuse. If he puts you down, gets in your face, shouts, throws things,
or gets physically violent with you, this is abuse. If you get to a
point where your own anger gets out of control, get help. It can get
pretty nasty so you must carefully remove yourself from the situation
immediately before someone gets hurt.
We don't always have the strength to appropriately handle ourselves in these types of situations or with these types of people. Not everything can be worked out and sometimes even the most loving relationships can get toxic. Stay safe, keep focused, and make healthy choices. It takes two intimate individuals to make a functioning grown up relationship. If you're the only one working at it and it's a constant win or lose battle with him or you constantly feel that you're fighting against the waves, it's because you are dealing with a child.
We don't always have the strength to appropriately handle ourselves in these types of situations or with these types of people. Not everything can be worked out and sometimes even the most loving relationships can get toxic. Stay safe, keep focused, and make healthy choices. It takes two intimate individuals to make a functioning grown up relationship. If you're the only one working at it and it's a constant win or lose battle with him or you constantly feel that you're fighting against the waves, it's because you are dealing with a child.
Most,
if not all of us have dealt or loved a boy trapped in a man's body.
Love can make us see things through Rose Colored Glasses making us blind
to the true picture of it all.
If you are here then you probably love this guy deeply while at the same time you feel this could be your last straw with him.
Your looking for answers because these are two very conflicting feelings that you're having. It can really start to overwhelm and take a tole on you. We are taught that Love conquers all. If it did then why do we feel so bad for something we love. Maybe the answer is right there...
You may have had it with this guy and feel you've already been through enough of the "Breakup and Makeup's" with him. You may also feel as if you can't live without him because during one of the breakup stages you realized you couldn't.
Either way, there are a lot of mixed emotions when you love a boy trapped in a man's body and that's why you're here.
If you are here then you probably love this guy deeply while at the same time you feel this could be your last straw with him.
Your looking for answers because these are two very conflicting feelings that you're having. It can really start to overwhelm and take a tole on you. We are taught that Love conquers all. If it did then why do we feel so bad for something we love. Maybe the answer is right there...
You may have had it with this guy and feel you've already been through enough of the "Breakup and Makeup's" with him. You may also feel as if you can't live without him because during one of the breakup stages you realized you couldn't.
Either way, there are a lot of mixed emotions when you love a boy trapped in a man's body and that's why you're here.
Check out these facts and statistics!
Did you know that:
Everyone
starts out as a female before they're born! So not only was every man
born from a woman, he was also actually a "she" once apon a time! (That
could explain his monthly man moods or as I like to say "He's going
through Menopause").
Men are mentally behind woman by two whole years.
People often mistake 'boys trapped in a man's body' as being a 'narcissist' because they carry the same personality trades.
(Examples: Selfishness, Always Right, Controlling, or appear to have very little emotion.)
Mental Age Growth and Common Effects to Delayed Mental Growth Chart:
Age 13 - 16 without frequent use of alcohol or drugs. These are Boy's. Don't expect anything less or anything more.
Age
13 - 18 with Alcohol and/or Drug use. Did you know that a guys mental
state is actually frozen at whatever age he starts drinking or doing
drugs. He will literally stay at that maturity level for the rest of his
life! ( This can also be found in woman but we're not talking about
that right now- Moving on).
Age
16-25 he is in the transition of becoming a young man and he is at his
highest peak with his Sex Drive. This is different for Men who don't get
Sex often from their partners. It's proven that 9 out of every 10 men
in a long term, committed, or married relationship continue to stay in
their prime much longer. It's called "The Chase" or "Want what they
Can't have Syndrome". They are also much more likely to stray or cheat
in these tough times. Keep them "Unloaded". This is a whole other Blog!
I will get to that another time!
Age
25 - 35 without children start to became more independent and are now
young men. The closer to 40 they get, the closer to hitting their
mid-life crisis! (Yikes!)
Age
25 - 35 with children become men. They still hit a weird mid-life
crisis but most times is a lot more tamed then if they didn't have
children or weren't married. Although a small percentage (Usually the
"Man-Child") can go off the deep end. " I WANT TO BE FREE!" They feel
they are getting old, try to stop it, and falsely believe it's all your
fault! Oh the great times of Resentment. Not!
Age
35 - 45 without children and/or never married are completely and 100% a
"Man Child" aka "A boy trapped inside a Man's body". Add Mama's Boy to
that and you got yourself a case of a "Super Man Child" or what I like
to call "A Scrub"! (Coming from the old time favorite TLC song from back
in the day! That's right! I said that out loud!)
Age
26 - 45 with children who have been married or in a long-term committed
relationship, that do not have an addiction to alcohol or drugs, who
haven't been frozen by drugs and alcohol as a boy- These are what we
call Men.
Awe Yes...Manly Men! This is the
one we ALL truly want and desire so much. Now sometimes if you catch one
early, marry, and have his children, he will most likely begin growing
into a man years earlier.
If
we don't have a grown man and are here dealing with "Boy's stuck in a
Man's Body" We want it! We so want our guy to be that man. We may have already had, loved, and lost a man like this before.
That makes it worse because we expect that in a man now. That's the way
it should be. It is so frustrating and heart wrenching loving these
guy's. They make excuses for Everything, Can't grow up if their lives
depended on it, their always right never wrong, and sadly love
themselves more. Truth is we do love them, we are blinded by that, and we are also somewhat settling.
It's even more challenging if your guy has been married and divorced
already because he is so stubborn that he actually believes that by not
getting married again, he's doing the "Right" thing. He feels he must go
back to being young again. No commitments. No one's going to tell him
what to do! When in all actuality, it's called compromising in a
relationship. Although everyone around him knows this, the child like
guy just can't see it this way. If only he knew how foolish he looked, we probably wouldn't be here right now. If
he knew just how wrong he really was, he would do right. Why? Because
he just can't be wrong now would he! He just cannot cohabitate in this
stubborn child like state of mind. He literally lost the man in him from
his failed marriage or long-term relationship. He can't handle being
wrong or failing again. Why? Because he is a Boy and Not a Man.
Watch
your heart. Play the field with or without him in your life cause it's
just too short. (He would, so why can't you?! This is another Blog I
will be writing about soon!)
Final Conclusion
If
you can't live without him then learn to live with it. There is only
one way to change his ways and help him grow and that is to leave him or
start living like you weren't with him. That's Right... Leave or Live. You can do both if you have it in you. One day at a time.
My
advise is to give yourself a week or two to think about it before
pulling any plugs. You don't want to do something impulsive that you may
regret. It's the wise thing to do. You don't have to disappear. Just
keep things casual while you sort out your thoughts and see if this is
something you really want to deal with.
Sometimes
during this time of thinking we'll see his true colors, good or bad. If
we're lucky he will sense the end is near, it's time he snaps out of
it, grows up, see's his faults, and wants to be the man who truly makes
you happy. The child in him will vanish, the man in him will step up,
and he will put his prideful ways aside.
If
he was meant to be...he will come back and want to be "Your Grown Man"
especially the moment he thinks someone else will swoop you up.
Sometimes it takes forgetting him all together. But he will be back once
he realizes there is no one more right for him or more about growing up
in a good way, then You!
In
the mean time, if you have to find a replacement then do it! He will
come back a grown man. If he doesn't, you've already moved on and you
will see that you just saved yourself a whole lot of that precious time
that you can't or wouldn't have ever gotten back.
Extra thoughts...
If
this man hasn't grown up by now and he's 30 plus year's old, chances
are he may never grow up. Deep inside you may already know that but it's
in our blood to fight until we are absolutely certain of the answers.
Especially when it's for someone we love and if our gut is telling us
something's off. It's natural to fear pain and with love comes pain.
The question is...Why do we have to fight for a love that's right? We don't... We only fight for something when we feel it's wrong or when we feel we are losing it. We fight to make it right.
The question is...Why do we have to fight for a love that's right? We don't... We only fight for something when we feel it's wrong or when we feel we are losing it. We fight to make it right.
Ultimately, Your just not happy.
Thanks for reading! I love Ya'll!
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